February 2011
13 posts
“The irony is that when women do perform this charade of male fantasy, in hopes...”
– What women want: For you to want them
January 2011
13 posts
“I think his inability to settle upon any particular term doesn’t...”
– Making sense of Ted Haggard’s “bisexuality”
“Before I even kissed a boy, I learned to flirt online. The AOL chat rooms of the...”
– “My life in online flirtation.”
Does "friends with benefits" work? →
“For six months, this guy and I would hang out and sleep together — euphemistically and literally — roughly once a week. In his self-deprecating style, he made no secret of his undateability. He was prone to post-coital declarations like, “You’ll be done with me soon. I’m a drunken emotional mess!” Only that was kind of the point: So was I. The...
The sexual cost of female success →
“It’s created an imbalance that tips relationship power in the direction of the men. Instead of men competing for women, today women feel like they must compete for men.”
“Our sexual coat of arms would feature a ‘Girls Gone Wild’ T-shirt, a...”
– “The modesty of the porn generation: When it comes to smut, we’re much more shy — and basically human — than the media narrative would have you think.”
“I’ve never actually gotten laid by a journalist. … I’d have...”
– Reader letter
“Along with other economic principles, game theory is one of the new popular...”
– “The economics of love: OKCupid uses math to explain dating success.”
Looking for interviewees
I’m looking for people who are willing to be interviewed about their earliest sexual memories. Anonymity OK. All ages and walks of life welcome. The aim isn’t to titillate, but to talk honestly about how sex shapes who we are. If you’re willing to participate or know someone who is, please, please, please shoot me an email: tracy(at)salon(dot)com.
“At first it seems a shocking break in custom, perhaps a sign that our idea of...”
– “The surprisingly traditional Groupon proposal” by Tracy “Shameless Self-Promoter” Clark-Flory
“The [Navy scandal] videos reflect a very real aspect of the sexual culture in...”
– “Male bonding” expert on Navy scandal
“…a great poem could flood me with certainty that there was something good...”
– “Lit” by Mary Karr